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Hello friends, family and acquaintences, and everyone else

All of who know me usually know a few things about me I don’thold any punches and I’m crazy as hell. With those who I am close to I am, I ampretty much an open book nothing is off bounds to discuss; but for thoseoutside of my circle my mouth is as tight as a nun’s legs.  But I felt compelled to attempt to start a blog for two reasons: If one more person asks me “are you anything like the women on the Real Housewives of Atlanta?” I swear I am gonna break out a NeNe’esque rant and slap them Sherie style…. just kidding.
And the second and most important reason is that I somewhat feel like a real portrayal of a considered lifestyle should be at least available for people to see because  the NFL wife lifestyle is over-dramatized for purposes of entertainment and ratings.  Of course my story is all not inclusive of ALL NFL (ex) wives….but it is a story of one NFL ex-wife. More importantly, it is a story and a journey of a woman finding herself, struggling and juggling to accomplish her dream, and attempting to reach her full potential. In that respect, this is a story of ALL women.

My name is Cawanna McMichael, and I am divorced mother of two, Isaiah (7) and Kai (5).  My ex-husband, Randy McMichael, to whom I was married a little over 6 years, is entering his 11^th season in the NFL with the San Diego Chargers. BOLT UP!!!!  We have been divorced for over 2 years but remain very close and supportive friends and co-parent very well. (Sorry,no courtroom mess and “he ain’t shit” drama here). 

Next week, I am entering my 1L year at the University of Georgia (UGA) Law School. My son, Isaiah will be entering 2^nd grade and my baby girl, Kai, is going to “big school” and is entering kindergarten at a public school in the Athens Area. 

 So why law school?

As a child it was always my dream to "numero Uno":be a BULLDAWG!!! And I always saw myself being a lawyer or some executive businesswoman,who kicks butt and takes names.  So I did what any other “smart” girl does with those type of aspirations, go to college.  I was lucky enough to go where I wanted to as a child “THE UNIVERSITY OF GEORGIA.”

I met my ex-husband (or rather I should say my ex-husband “met” me) in the end of my freshman year at UGA in 2002, while he was training for the NFL draft…and we married at the end of my sophomore year and the summer after his rookie season,with the Miami Dolphins.  I left UGA moved Miami and to make a very long but quite interesting story short, “life happened”.  


I eventually finished my BS degree at Nova Southeastern, gave birth twice, and twiddled around getting my cosmetology license and being a make-up artist and stylist for a while for kicks.  One day I just was not happy with the direction my life.  My ex-husband and I were literally kids when we married and as a result we had many rocky times trying to mature, be married, and deal with distinctive struggles of a NFL couple. We decided our marriage was not working even though we got along so Randy and I divorced in a very amicable fashion.  

Post divorce: I made a very intense attempt to be the kick-ass businesswoman and started my own music label.  While on the business side things were great; managing and depending on the talents of another person for success proved to be detrimental to the entire operation. So once again I was stuck with the extremely depressing task of reinventing myself.

I went to several life coaches, shrinks, and of course mama, and then I said a whole bunch of “dear sweet baby Jesus, 7lbs, lying in amanger….what am I supposed to do with my life?” prayers. The answer becameclear to me go to law school.  When I told everyone my decision, it waslike everyone, including Randy said, “Duh, that was what you were always supposed to do.”  To which I responded, “if you knew it all along, why in the heck didn’t you tell me?”

At any rate I did the work (LSAT, applications, essays)  and now I am here. I just finished week one of the law early start program at UGA which is basically for “old heads” like me who need a little practice run before the real race starst next week. You know, to clean out all the cobwebs from our brains.

Let me tell you what I feel now…..

1)  EXTREMELY Tired…I slept about four hours a night in order to keep up with the workload of just two classes and I will have to take 5 classes when school starts

2) Excited: It feels so invigorating being back ina collegiate setting and the varying personalities, cultures, backgrounds, andoutlooks you encounter on a daily basis.

3) Scared:  the fear of the unknown is scary for anyone and with the time commitment being so consuming especially with me having two kiddos I still need to be "mommy everything" -  especially with their dad being ALL THE WAY across the country in California preparing for his season…I sometimes worry “can I do it all?”

4)  FOCUSED  in the words of the Nutty Professor and loosely translated Obama campaign slogan “YES I CAN”

So I am hoping to be able to update this blog periodically to make is somewhat of a journal of my progress in learning to balance my life asI knew it to be and the life that I want it to be. 

DISCLAIMER:

·     This blog is merely for my enjoyment and to beFUN.  Therefore you will see typos,grammatical errors, pity parties, fun party pictures, and angry disjointed rants.  Since I am clearly in law school with two kids and not getting paid to do this, I will not be proofreading,editing, and formatting.  So you may have to read through a few errors but the benefit is that you get a blog written by me and not one as told to another person.

·     Secondly, because I am a closed off person; Iam already trying to decide what things I want share and what things I want to keep to myself.  Such is the benefit of NOT being on TV.  So basically whatever I write is for your knowledge…if you want or need to know more call or text me…if you do not have the ability to call or text me “STOP BEING NOSY…. in ‘aint none of your diggity darn business….but I still love you tho

With this being said feel free to leave comment, encouragement, advice, relevant questions, and even complaints (but expect to be cursed out if you do…. just kidding)

I am not promising to be super “jonnie on the spot” about updates but I will be trying to explain the various avenues taken, support systems built in order to get done what needs to be done and offer sarcastic commentary of my journey of going through law school.

Hopefully, this blog will give another perspective to that which is seen of TV that portrays a class of women to whom I am a member.

As well serve as some form of entertainment or even information for someone considering choosing the law school path.

Look. Feel. Be. She-Nomenal
With Love,

C.Anise